So often, we fall for people’s potential. We ignore the signs, so clearly lit up in front of us, because we are instead distracted by the light in their eyes. We make excuses for them.
“They didn’t call me because they are busy” “They just hate texting, it’s okay” “They are just independent, which is what I wanted” “Maybe I’m moving too fast, I don’t want to be too much”
Instead of failing to see the truth - they aren’t right for us. We can try to fit, mold, bend, and break whatever standards we have. We can try to validate every decision because we desperately want it to be them. Why? Because instead of seeing what’s real, we see what could be. We seek validation in the arms of someone that won’t carry us. We put our self worth in people that don’t deserve to have it. We fall for their smile and the way they curl their hair. We fall for their success and the idea of the future. We fall for their laugh - while wondering if they are even noticing yours. We fall in love with outward appearances, the potential of what could be, and crave their approval. Because if it ends, there must be something wrong with us, not them.
Ask yourself this: why in the hell are you less than them?
You may think you’re lucky to have them, but they are lucky to have you. They are so lucky for your brunette hair turned blonde, your sarcasm, and your laugh. They are so lucky for the way you love, your independence, and your desire to succeed. They are so lucky for the way you light up when you talk about what you love. They are so lucky for the way you get ready to go out, take one shot, then go back home. They are so lucky for the mother that you will be and the wife that you will become.
Because for the right person, we won’t be too much. We won’t have to second guess every word we say, wonder where we stand, and trip over ourselves to impress them. We won’t have to wait for just that one phone call, when it’s convenient for them, to get us through another week of uncertainty. For the right person, you love them for who they are. You won’t be sacrificing your values, selling yourself short, and lowering your standards. You won’t spend your days being drained, because they just “get” you. With the right person, you will feel loved. You won’t need validation, because they instilled in you that you’re worth so much more. You will never feel less than, because they won’t make you question your worth. For the right person, it fits. For the right person, the potential is already the reality.
“So what if he doesn’t love you anymore. You didn’t have him in your life once before and you were fine. So you’ll be fine without him again. All you need to do now is show him that it was his loss, not yours.”
Maui is a powerful demigod. Big and strong and… oh, you think he looks fat?
That’s probably because you’ve been conditioned by the media to accept this
as what strong and fit looks like. Amiright?
Sadly… these guys are not all that strong. Yeah, they got muscles… but they aren’t built in a useful way. They are built for looks and that’s about it.
This…
is a strong guy. Actually a competitor in the Strongman competition. But… his tummy sticks out and he doesn’t look like a Dorito.
You know who else is strong?
These guys…
And Maui…
Look at those arms, omg. And that solid, sturdy torso. You can see a shadow where his meat covers his ribs, but he doesn’t look like any slouch to me.
And this guy…
That’s Dwayne Johnson’s grandfather. When the Disney animators showed him their sketches of Maui, he pulled out a picture of his grandfather and showed it to them because he was amazed how similar they looked. This dude was also a pro wrestler.
There’s actually a great infographic about ab muscles and stuff over HERE. but this is the part i want to show you.
That thickness don’t move like fat. It doesn’t jiggle and he’s able to flex it. Look at how it sits on his body. It doesn’t sag… he doesn’t have a gut. There’s even a slight V shape to his torso.
It’s just big and not ‘defined’.
And people aren’t used to that.
(sorry, this isn’t the most organized post… i kinda just let it all spill out)
There are more ways to kill an orchid than there are to get one to actually stay alive, let alone bloom. They die if they don’t like their soil, or their water, or the amount of sun, or the amount of shade, or the environment in general, sometimes they die if they just plain don’t like you. Orchids are the pickiest plant in the world, and they would rather be dead, then put up with shit they don’t like. For those of the human race that can actually keep an orchid alive, you have been chosen, and you should be proud.
